down or just going numb or acting out the feelings. That means that rather than talk about their feelings, they do something destructive, either to themselves or to someone else or to property. The scapegoat child does a lot of acting out. The others push their feelings down more. John: You listed “Don’t talk and don’t feel.” What’s the third main rule? Sarah: Well, that rule is “Don’t trust.” The alcoholic’s behavior can be very unpredictable, even hurtful. The child doesn’t know which parent is