down than by saying it aloud. John: What is you have a major problem with your stepparent? How would you go about working out the conflict? Dr. Pounds: Well, first of all remember that your relationship is more important than any problem. And keep this in mind. The next step is to be open-minded. Again, try to put yourself in their place. Resist the attitude that you are always right and they cannot change your mind on any situation. If you need to set a time to talk face-to-face with your stepparent