goals because they are the ones that have to live with the outcome of their choices. Remember, we told Bob and Patrice that we would be willing to give them some ideas of how they could achieve their goals, but only after they had exhausted their own creativity and ideas. Asking and listening, and giving the clients choice of goals and action steps are the core of Marriage Coaching that distinguish Marriage Coaching from counseling or mentoring approaches. While counselors and mentors may ask, listen