• Do not case manage her life for her, taking over the decision-making. • Do not make the assumption that this marriage should be kept together at all costs. • Do not respond by displacing the focus from his responsibility for his behavior by saying, “Tell me about your family history,” or “What did you do to provoke him?” reinforcing in these questions that it is somehow because of her that the violence is occurring. • Do not trivialize or minimize what has occurred. Be concerned about any injuries
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