is (as many think) unavoidable, then three things follow: 1. The individual undergoing stress is not responsible for it. 2. He is a victim of what others (or circumstances) have done to him. 3. In most instances he can do nothing to alleviate it.1 Moreover, it is not at all helpful to speak of stressors (as if persons could automatically turn on stress in another by their presence, words or actions). Neither persons nor situations can do anything of the sort. They may exert pressure, but not cause