going through the motions of marriage. There’s no excitement, no romance. They’ve “fallen out of love.” Is this an important problem or just a part of the normal marriage cycle? For those who risk talking about it, there seems to be real pain. The longing for emotional connectedness is still there, languishing deep inside. Some can look back nostalgically to a time when they felt alive in the relationship. Others are hard pressed to describe any period in their marriage where the intimacy existed.