Dan’s world is different. What would he be like if everyone had just given up on him? What would he be like if no one assumed responsibility and instead pushed it all on him? What would he be like if all he experienced in those years of struggle was criticism? My life is different too. Now, nearly three decades later, I am beginning to understand that I was learning the discipline of patient kindness. Exclusive love is kind. Paul didn’t mean here that we are simply to be nice to one another. This