“A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.” You see, sometimes when you start to listen to a person in a conversation, and they start to pour their heart out to you, the first few words out of their mouth—the thing that they said they came to talk to you about—is not really what is going on deep in their life. If you’ll be patient with them, if you won’t take the defensive, if you’ll just patiently listen to them, maybe you’ll start to hear the subcurrent of what’s