to have a quarrel, and then one day one comes to the other and says, in all sincerity, ‘I forgive you!’ it is clear that that is not only a word of love and reconciliation, but also a word (perhaps a withering word) of condemnation—for in pronouncing his forgiveness, he is clearly implying that the other person is the guilty party! Indeed it can be a very hurtful thing, if not a self-righteous thing, to say to someone, ‘I forgive you!’ How would the other person be likely to react? I could imagine
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