to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them. I shall use my time.”1 Put that on your bumper sticker! Surely every member of the human race would stand to affirm his or her desire to have and to hold the thing London describes. But something is holding us back—could it be our fear? Yes, we must admit it: We are afraid. We’re afraid that life wide open will be too wide open. It may streak into the sky like a comet, beyond our control, outside our comfort zone. We want