In my own upbringing both at home and at church, I learned to focus primarily on my thinking. It was essential that I knew and understood all the teachings of Jesus. It was also important for me to make a commitment to following those teachings through the strength of my will. However, my emotions and my desire received mostly negative attention. Emotions—and especially negative emotions—were banished. Hide them or compartmentalize them, but never express them. Good Christians didn’t feel fear or