renders normal marriage counseling not only ineffective but also harmful. A colleague of mine, Winston Smith, has pointed this out: It’s important to identify the presence of abuse [in marriage] because, undetected, these patterns can sabotage the counseling process. A fundamental dynamic of marriage counseling is helping spouses examine their own behavior so that each understands his or her contribution to shared problems, but this very process can unwittingly play into patterns of abuse rather
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