that help me get a sense of the atmosphere in the midst of their fights. In marriage counseling, we often talk about the content of the argument—the issues. But if we are to discover oppression, we need to know how an argument looks and sounds. This inventory gives me a window into what it is like during a conflict. I use it to ask questions that are more precise. For instance: “When he was yelling at you, where was he standing?” This gives a spouse the opportunity to report things like being cornered.