4:1f). At the point where he did not get what he wanted from his wife (her selfish reasons not withstanding), he exploded. His anger and self-pity felt totally justified in the heat of the moment. Abusive behavior came from a sinful heart. Don already knew that his abusive behavior was sinful, and often repented afterwards. But he now became aware that his idolatry—“Lisa must love and understand me in order for me to be happy”—had usurped God, becoming more important to him than “I need to love God