healthy and desirable ways. Due to the unique nature of our needs, there are always expectations attached to them. The lack of fulfillment of those expectations is what causes all of us to get angry on a variety of levels. As therapists, we consistently see how people project their hurts onto others and how this is directly related to needs and desires on some level not being met. When we take time to listen to the words of others who have experienced significant emotional pain, they inevitably describe