the avoidant style is rooted in denial and the ambivalent style is stuck in bitterness.) The third and constructive option is the following path to forgiveness: 1. Place blame appropriately. Don’t act like the injury didn’t occur, don’t blame yourself, and don’t make excuses for the offender. Simply be honest about what happened and how it hurt you. 2. Grieve. When you grieve, you appreciate what was lost. Grieve, for instance, over your lost ability to trust. Then allow yourself to experience the