FIVE CHARACTERISTICS OF A HEALTHY, SECURE RELATIONSHIP 1. We seek proximity (closeness) to the caregiver, especially in times of trouble. 2. The caregiver provides a safe haven, a felt sense of security. 3. The caregiver offers us a secure base from which to explore the world. 4. Any threat of separation induces fear and anxiety. 5. Loss of the caregiver prompts grief and sorrow. Before Frank’s death, Rita walked closely with the Lord. She went to church,