Blaming your spouse will only make your marriage worse. You and your spouse are both responsible for the condition of your marriage. Therefore, each of you must identify your mistakes and bad behavior and work to change. You must focus on the only person in the universe you can change: you! In marriages in which only one spouse has sinned seriously (adultery, pornography, alcoholism, drug addiction, physical and verbal abuse, etc.), that must be dealt with first and in special ways. The sinning spouse