but he will do nothing to improve the relationship. Occasionally, he’ll make a lame, half-hearted attempt to do some things differently, but it never lasts long. You know what you’re missing and are willing to do whatever it takes to enrich your marriage. You ask him to go to a marriage seminar. He says no. You ask him to read a marriage book like this one. He says no. You ask him to see your pastor or a Christian therapist. He says no. Even if he “tries” one of these options, he makes zero changes.