Make a list of the areas where you are not demonstrating self-control. Consider all appetites, even if your struggle is only moderate. Don’t get overwhelmed by this list— you are not going to try to fix them all at once. But the list will give you something to prioritize and start working on. 2. Make a list of the lies you have been telling yourself. What lies and excuses are you using to allow yourself to continue in an unhealthy pattern? Admit them and stop using them. Here are several examples: