know how to find solid ground. About the time you begin to wade out of a period of turmoil, a snake bites or an alligator threatens and you lose your footing. Your struggle for self-preservation so occupies you that you are unable to analyze the source of your problems. You wonder: Am I responsible for all this chaos? Or is the person who drives me crazy truly messed up and responsible for the havoc?1 This book explores an uncomfortable truth regarding setting boundaries with