marriage is actually about. I have always thought of this moment of reality recognition as a very positive thing, although the caller rarely does. Usually the wife is in a panic; she thinks she has made a mistake, she thinks their love is over, and she imagines she is going to live a life of loveless torment. But at this moment I think she is about to experience the good stuff that only honest marriage can experience. She is about to be taken beyond herself, and in being taken beyond herself she will abandon