wondering what had happened to the man she thought she was marrying. As Mindy sat with her small group friends, she was often tempted to blurt out, “Brad’s not who you think he is and we need help,” but she knew she never would. She loved Brad and pleaded to God for help, but she just didn’t know what to do. I could give example after example of a dichotomy that exists in so many of us (and still exists in some places in my own life) between what we say we believe and the way we live. And I am persuaded