my behavior. For instance, my marriage vows preclude my dating other women. I have gladly kept that vow not only since marriage, but also for some considerable time beforehand. In fact, dating someone else has not crossed my mind since the late ’60s. To follow that restriction rigidly, however, while at the same time ignoring Sandra, may conform to the letter of the marriage law and be the right thing to do, but my solitary social life would not by itself make for a happy marriage. The time that