A person’s feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and actions should line up as close as possible. If we believe something that we don’t act on, we’ve got incongruence. If we do something we don’t want to do and we have bad feelings, we have incongruence. For a counselor, I try to have a rule that I would never ask a client to do something that I am not willing to do. If I ask them to exercise, if I ask them to eat well, if I ask them to rest, I need to be integrating those things into my life. As a counselor,