Most daily living is dedicated to one’s own goals. However, when people marry, that focus needs to shift. Instead of remaining egocentric, they must direct some of their energy toward meeting the needs of their mates. The more energy you can direct into fulfilling the needs of your mate, the more fulfilled you can be in marriage. At first glance this may seem self-defeating. You may wonder if you would be unfair to yourself if you continually strive to meet your mate’s needs. You have needs too!