for assistance, because people are often hurt emotionally or physically and want to hurt anyone who intervenes. In the church, people will hurt each other with words, false accusations, slander, and lies. They want the other person to lose in a big way. The emphasis of the argument is “I am right; they are wrong.” There is no middle ground: anger, possibly hatred, has become part of the emotional baggage. Each of the parties has people organized and has identified who is on each side. When Christians