The second step toward a winning attitude is identifying your spouse’s positive characteristics. I suggest that you make a written list. Ask God to bring to your mind all the positive things about your spouse, and then write them down. Enlist the help of your children by saying something like this: “I’m working on changing my attitude toward your father (or mother), and I’m trying to identify some of his positive traits. Would you tell me the things you like about your father, the things you appreciate