next to his bed. When he woke unable to breathe at 3:00 a.m. it was a rush into the bathroom turned into a steam cave or a rush to the emergency room. One day I realized that my choices said something about what was important to me. I started asking myself what message my choices said to Jody about how important he was to me. What message did Jody get from me? Did I walk away from him and say, “Don’t even think about sex or a good meal. Can’t you see I’m wiped out?” Or did I walk toward him, put my arms