Second hoax: the romantic notion that one person can meet all the needs of another person. Each one of us lives on many levels, and we need multileveled relationships with many different kinds of people to be healthy and whole. With the decline of extended families in Western cultures, this becomes all the more pressing. The closest thing to this book is a two-sentence insight from the Regius Professor of Divinity at Oxford University, Marilyn McCord Adams: It is a lie that any one person can be