commands or a supervisor’s directives with no opportunity for your own input is toxic. Giving up your needs and aspirations to someone else with whom you are in relationship must be a choice you make based on long-term goals, not the result of the other person exerting his power over you. Losing who you are in the process of serving, helping, giving, or sharing is not only unhealthy, it is toxic. It can happen only when your vision is skewed. Randy was losing his sense of self. “I’ve tried to do everything