you set your limits, you too must be willing to accept the consequences. A good or, in some cases, a tolerable relationship is the result of hard work. It is dependent on your being very realistic about the situation. To determine your options, you must quit rationalizing or justifying. Healthy relationships are built on realism, not fantasy. James could survive a hellion (his word) as an employer because he was realistic. The boss had no tact, no idea of how his words stung,