There are many ways in which people commit marital unfaithfulness that is not in the form of sexual adultery. Some people vanish into TV watching or Internet surfing: For some people it is a much less painful alternative than trying to have a relationship in which you never feel good enough. Some people vanish into making money: For them, having a big bank account serves as tangible (and false) evidence of their personal value, and it salves the pain of a not-good-enough marriage. I have counseled