You will need to literally make a study of your spouse to figure out the most effective ways to encourage and affirm. Cathy appreciates complimentary words, but what she really appreciates is when I show empathy and understanding for what she is going through in life and give her help with her responsibilities. Make a study of your spouse to figure out the most effective ways to encourage and affirm. When Cathy is overwhelmed with the workload and responsibilities of her life, the most valuable thing