used to reconstruct the victim’s identity. However, these self-enhancements end up being only “homemade rituals.”2 The truth is we are powerless to heal ourselves. Research shows that self-help actually results in self-harm. Self-help statements have been found to be ineffective and even harmful because “they may even backfire, making some people feel worse rather than better.”3 If the positive self-statement does not “stick,” the result is to return to one’s original negative self-perception and