The problem is a spiritual one brought on by your own sinful flesh or by a rebellious and clever enemy of God. Think about it: Much of what you end up fighting about in your marriage has nothing to do with what you are really fighting about, does it? There’s something deeper —an unmet need, a lack of trust, a lack of respect, or any number of other things. These are the root of the problem and the fights. However, what makes a marriage strong is loving with a biblical love grounded in patience, kindness,