She expected her husband to act like her father, and that triggered her to act like her mother, doing surveillance instead of trusting him. Too often a problem in our marriage is an unresolved experience from our past. Someone did not give us what we needed, and now our desire for it is so intense and out of balance that the people in our lives today cannot provide it or compensate for it. We place unrealistic demands on people, and the result is disconnection and disruption of the relationship.