First, it does what we Christians are consistently enjoined to do—to separate the problem from the person. This separation allows you to hate and attack the problem without hating or attacking the person. You realize that the effects of the trauma your mate is carrying do not define who he or she is. You see your mate as a victim who bears the pain of evil inflicted. Just as physical pain often causes us to writhe and twist our bodies in an attempt to escape it, the agony of emotional pain causes