“The best strategy is to get a Ph.D. in the wounds of your spouse.”1 In other words, become an expert on your mate’s hurts. Do all you can to uncover the underlying cause of the impaired behavior. Dig into it until you understand it, and then take steps to help your mate address and resolve the problem. This is what Cody did, and it bound his marriage together with real intimacy. Cody’s Christlike action turns the prevalent mind-set of today’s culture upside down. Instead of seeing himself as a victim