is a heart that knows how to love. Next, being able to mourn means being able to take the time to mourn and to do so in our own time. In the Jewish tradition, we practice what is called “sitting shiva”—shiva is Hebrew for “seven,” and the practice takes place not in the synagogue but in the home of the family of the deceased. Shiva, which lasts for seven days, is the time when family members traditionally tear their clothes or wear a torn black ribbon pinned to the clothes; they will sometimes sit