the answer is no. You can tell she feels sorry for you, and that she fears ending up like you. All of that can be scary and exhausting. On the other hand, you might have the family that others around you envy. Maybe your parents are exactly the ones you would have chosen. Maybe your marriage is affectionate and growing in intimacy as you age together. Or maybe your children are well behaved, successful, and constantly in touch. And maybe, then, you wonder how long this can last. That can be scary