preferences, beliefs, concerns and also some of your own personal experiences. One of the level-four questions my daughter often asked me when she was young was, “Daddy, what were you like when you were a little boy?” I was amazed at how much I began to recall and share about myself in response to her question. 1. When does this type of conversation occur in your marriage? 2. Which of you tends to use this style of conversation more? Level five is the highest level of conversation and communication.