Listening involves caring for and being empathic toward the person who is talking. Hearing means that you are concerned about what is going on inside you during the conversation. Listening means that you are trying to understand the feelings of the other person and are listening for his or her sake. Let me give you a threefold definition of listening when it pertains to your spouse talking to you: 1. Listening means that you’re not thinking about what you’re going to say when he or she stops talking. You