The ultimate battle is always between our ears, not between our legs. The struggle with our sexuality is always a reflection of what is going on in our heads. Sexual bondage is not about sex. Bondage is about how we see ourselves. But the dragon’s strategy isn’t complete until he has brought his dupe to the point of total domination. He isn’t satisfied with swamping his victims with condemnation. His ultimate goal is to move us to the point of compulsion, where our behavior is so out of control that