helper shows how vital the role is in providing what is lacking in a man. Husbands have gaps in their lives that their wives are uniquely qualified to fill. 11. What are some ways a husband needs his wife’s help? The opposite of being a helper is being a competitor. Competitors do the opposite of filling gaps and supporting weak areas. They exploit those weaknesses to gain the upper hand. A competitive wife can stir a husband to aggression and retaliation or to withdrawal rather than caring, supporting