me. I didn’t need to change in order to gain God’s love and acceptance. God loved me; therefore, I could change. Manning said that every attempt to change ourselves is motivated either by self-hatred or guilt in some form. This is one of the main reasons that Christians don’t experience freedom from their addictions. Guilt is a powerful motivation, but it doesn’t bring the desired result. According to Manning, the biggest mistake we can make is to say, “Lord, if I change, You’ll love me, won’t You?”