3. Once the person bottoms out, the natural human desire is to seek relief from the pain or help with the need, and so the search begins. 4. The seeking motive results in the person using and/or doing something that he or she believes will bring a level of relief. For some, it’s drugs or alcohol; for others it could be food, gambling, sex, the need for control, co-dependent relationships, or a number of other things. 5. The initial result is that the person feels good. They experience some relief