most important, we’ll have the strength of character and the boundaries that allow us to be emotionally healthy, no matter what others do. A lot of the discomfort in relationships comes from our own expectations. When we decide what a person is like during our first contact with them, we assume it’s accurate. We form those first impressions quickly, and we believe them to be true. The problem is that we’re evaluating the person from a one-sided perspective. We don’t