The question in later life is not, “Who was I?” It really needs to be, “Who am I now becoming?” Nouwen is right. We need to get beyond what we were and embrace the future as we move forward to what we can become for this great elder stage in life. Now back to that good news, bad news scenario. Henri Nouwen goes on in his book on aging to lay out the choices we have. On the one hand, as we get older, we can move to the dark side—be a little negative, be a little pessimistic, feel bitter about how