college or how to drive, we learn for a purpose. The human heart does not only seek instruction, but it operates on incentive. The default approach to change seems to be this: a constant barrage of “CHANGE CHANGE CHANGE CHANGE CHANGE.” If I can tell someone one hundred times a day that he or she should stop lying/cheating/hurting/manipulating, then eventually that person’s will can be shaped in new directions. Right? I certainly heard this advice in my social circles growing up. I even hear it among